Isn’t my wife awesome? I don’t think you really know how awesome she is. Solomon did a a pretty good job of describing her…
Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?
She is more precious than rubies.
Her husband can trust her,
and she will greatly enrich his life.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She is clothed with strength and dignity,
and she laughs without fear of the future.
When she speaks, her words are wise,
and she gives instructions with kindness.
She carefully watches everything in her household
and suffers nothing from laziness.
Her children stand and bless her.
Her husband praises her:
“There are many virtuous and capable women in the world,
but you surpass them all!”
Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last;
but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.
Reward her for all she has done.
Let her deeds publicly declare her praise.
Excerpts from Proverbs 31 - Emphasis mine
I tried looking for a verse that was less commonly noted to describe a wife like mine, but I couldn’t find it. These words are God-inspired, poetic and the perfect way to describe Erin. I cannot tell you how proud I am to be married to her. Her blog, which you all have read through laughter and tears, has made this process of adopting a little more accessible by those who haven’t been through the process and has put words to the feelings of incredible joy, frustration, hurt and then joy again of the families who have or are adopting. Her writing is beautiful and a great way for her to vent. I would like to thank all of you for being faithful to read it and encourage her with followup posts. We love to sit down and review the statistics that blogspot.com provides on how many page views and unique visitors are coming to her blog. It is AMAZING! There have been over 6000 page views!
When I started thinking about writing this post, I thought I’d like to give some more insight into what she REALLY feels like some times, because I see her day in and day out, thinking about Charlie, the process, how it is affecting Greyson, how else we can prepare for when he comes home (read:shopping), the ups, the downs, but when I went back and read some of her posts I realized that the reason so many of you are interested in her blog is that not only is she giving updates about where we are at, she is being perfectly honest about where she is at and what she is feeling. She is vulnerable in her posts and that is what makes her a great writer. Side note… don’t expect any vulnerable tears from her hijacking guest blogger.
Going into the process we agreed that things were going to be tough, it would go longer than we expected and the result would be worth it all. We were right on all three items. Through the challenges, ups and downs we have solidified that we are a great team. Sometimes she is ready to lose it and I’m there to listen, other times I have given too much reason and calculation to the whole process and she has brought up the hurt and the pain of Charlie’s birth mom… reality check for me. There have been “moments” we’ll call them, emotional, financial, practical life “moments” that we look at this process and think “what the heck were we thinking” and then we get an update a week later with just enough information to charge us back up. Throughout the entire process the One that has proved faithful throughout every mountain top, the deepest of valleys and every day in between is our incredible God who is the one who really started this adoption with a call. We chose to answer that call, as Erin discussed two posts ago, and cannot wait to see Him complete the work which he has called us to. I Thessalonians 5:24, has been a foundational verse to our adoption process, an assurance that we cannot work this out, but instead “Faithful is He who calls you, and He also will bring it to pass.”
We are so excited to be hopefully closing in on the time when Charlie finally comes home to us, when Grey gets the brother he wants and needs; when “He brings it to pass.”
Thanks for riding along, being an encouragement and for reading my fantabulous wife’s blog.